Picture by Carra Abbott

Monday, October 18, 2010

In the news..

http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/blogs/sex-stories/is-an-emotional-affair-cheatin

While doing a content analysis project for my Communications class, I ran across this article from Redbook.  Of course, I had to take a break from homework and write about it.

The media has been covering the relationship of Courtney Cox and David Arquette.  

Arquette has admitted to physically cheating on Cox with another woman.  To justify his actions, he says that they were "on a break."  They are starting to sound more like Ross and Rachel!

Rumors have been circulating that Cox has been involved with an emotional affair with her co-star, Brian Van-Holt.

The article delves into the debate of which is worse, an emotional affair or a physical affair.  It concludes that emotional cheating is more powerful.

Is one or the other necessarily worse?  How do you define emotional cheating?  Emotional cheating has been defined as grabbing a drink after work, inside jokes, etc. I think people have had emotional affairs for forever; the concept isn't new.  New is the scramble to find justification for broken marriages.

 That is not to say that I condone any sort of cheating, and I think it is an enormous problem in our society.  So many marriages are failing that we are more closely examining the causes.  It seems that failing marriages consume the front pages of the media.  At the very least, we see more news about these marriages than successful ones.  Is this having any effect on us? In some way, maybe the statistics and stories about how rare it is to find successful relationships are encouraging us to give up when the inevitable tough times come.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Sisters: A Girl's Best Friend

Triplets? (Megan, left,  Alyssa, right)





It's I LOVE MY SISTER week. Celebrate a sister who has made you laugh, wiped your tears, hugged you, watched you succeed, saw you stumble, cheered you on and kept you strong. Sisters are a friend forever.









Thursday, September 30, 2010

To date or not to date


At what point in life does dating become purposeful? By that, I mean when do we hit that point at which we say if we can’t see ourselves with someone for the long term, what’s the point?  Is it after high school? After college? 

Does dating someone that you started dating in high school change things? As you both grow and develop, certain traits will become clear.  If someone continues a bad habit from high school or hasn’t gotten over something that you thought they would by now, we struggle with whether that should be the breaking point for the relationship.  That one thing can be a deal breaker even for a relationship that’s stayed strong through a few years already.  Why is that?  Is it good that now we are mature enough to look forward to the future already about what we can and cannot handle from our significant others? Or, should we just have fun with relationships and not worry about it while we are in college?

Not everyone, but many girls are looking more and more seriously at a guy before dating him. More so now than in high school, we ask ourselves questions about his lifestyle, his perspectives on relationships, his family, etc.  For my friends and me, we don’t want to put in the effort to a relationship that we don’t see potential in.  

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Hello!

My friends call me “a hopeless romantic”, and my best friends label me as “cheesy.” Both are probably correct.  At this point in my life, I am still an idealist.  I have so many hopes and dreams, both academically and in my personal life.  However, I unfortunately have not avoided the relationships that were anything but dreamy.  Like any other young adult, I’ve had my fair share of heartbreaks and disappointments.   Ask my friends; there have been at least a few nights of tears, late night pizza, and some Taylor Swift scream-o sessions.  Regardless of all of that, there have been unforgettable, wonderful moments in each of those relationships.  I still believe in love, and that is what this blog is about. Living in a sorority house with 101 girls, you can only imagine how often this topic comes up. I love it. I love love.